Marriage at my age

People have had a lot of opinions about me getting married in my early twenties.  They don’t seem to understand… they say we rushed or just give me a look like I was crazy to marry someone within a year and a half.  Without God, it isn’t going to make sense; I don’t expect it to.

God is the only reason why we got married.

It is all by Him and for Him and made possible through Him.  Marriage is a symbol.  A symbol of the deep, meaningful relationship of Christ and His Church.  The church (not the building, but the actual members of the body of Christ which makes up THE church of Jesus Christ) loves Jesus and we submit to Jesus and do what He would have us to do with our lives.  It is the same for wives and husbands.  Wives submit to a loving husband who would give up his life for her.  Christ died for us, and our husbands should love us in the same way.  Sacrifice on both sides is necessary… putting others before yourself is vital.  This is God’s will for us.  Age in and of itself is not a determining factor of marital success.

I read an article on relevantmagazine.com (a popular Christian-view on relevant things in culture right now) and there was an article that was talking about age and marital success.  It gave examples of studies that have been done on couples who married at very different ages and it concluded that the age was not a major factor in marital success.  Success has to do more with levels of commitment and personal maturity.  Now I’m sure you know of those older folks who act like they are 12 and then there are some young adults who have wisdom that far exceeds some older adults.  This is personal maturity.  The Relevant Article quotes: “there's certainly something to be said for going through those challenges with the person you love by your side. Having the mindset that everything in life has to be in order before getting married can mean missing out on the fact that marriage is often crucial in helping people mature.”

If God is in the center, your marriage will not be shaken.

On a personal note, I have had very different responses from people when they hear I am married. Today, I am younger than the average person to get married, yet back in the day couples would get married much younger. Age is such a huge factor today and I think it is focused in on too much and people raise their eyebrows at young married couples (with no legitimate reasons to back them up as to why they are judging others by their standards). The reason I got married was that I found a man who loves the Lord and he helps me with my faith and vice versa and to give glory to God through our marriage.


I’ve seen my parent’s marriage fail and his parent’s marriage succeed. My parents were older when they were married, his were younger. Age obviously, in this case, wasn’t the issue. God was the determining factor that his parent’s marriage has lasted. My parents did not have God in their marriage.  And no, I don’t think there are any solid guarantees to any decision we make because we are human.  We all make mistakes.  We all fail.  But God is our rock and our center.  Leaning on Him in all we do can heal anything—even a marriage.

Wedding Vows

Wedding Vows
In honor of my previous post, I decided to post our wedding vows and the font that I used to type them up and frame them in our bedroom!  Not only do they look really cute on our wall, they are a great reminder as to what we have promised to live up to in respect to our marriage!  The font is called Jenna Sue J  I got this idea from one of my favorite blogs, Life Blessons.

I take you to be my wedded spouse

To have and to hold from this day forward

For better, for worse

For richer, for poorer

In sickness and in health

To love and to cherish

Till death do us part

According to God’s holy law

I pledge you my faith. 

Why I Love My Husband

My husband Peter has always told me that for guys, their hearts wander starting with their eyes.  For women, it’s an emotional attachment to another man (more of which I learned from one of my favorite books, Every Woman’s Battle).  For guys, it’s their eyes that lead them down a long, horrible path that more often than not, leads to broken relationships and even broken marriages.  This is why I respect my husband more than anything—he protects his eyes. 

This post isn’t a list of all of the reasons as to why I love my husband… just one particular aspect to him that I truly admire, adore and most importantly, respect him for.  He works for a moving company as of right now so that means he’s always around guys who are a little rough around the edges.  They will often try to one-up each other and talk about not-so-great topics of conversation.  Every day he comes home and usually has an interesting story to tell me about his day.  One particular thing that is usually part of his day is the fact that the guys crudely talk about women and break their necks looking at them.  It truly makes me sick hearing some of the things guys say… and many of them are married.

When Peter and I are together, he makes it a point not to look at other women that are wearing barely anything that could potentially make his thoughts go where they shouldn’t be going.  He keeps his eyes on me instead.

And it’s not just when we are together.  He tells me of the times at his job where his co-workers want to show him crude things on their phones and he tells them he doesn’t want any part of it; when they tell him to hurry up and look at the girl walking past them he makes it a point not to look.  He tells them he has a wife at home whom he loves (and goodness, does hearing that from him make me smile!).  I know he is being truthful to me because, first off, he is the most truthful person I’ve ever met, and secondly-- I hear the disappointment in his voice.

I hear disappointment when he tells me the guys who do this have a wife and kids at home.

One guy even said, “You can look at the menu, but just don’t order from it!”  What kind of nonsense is that?!  Do I want my husband looking with lustful thoughts at another woman when I’m not around him… let alone when I’m WITH him?! No way.  No way do I want my husband leading his heart astray with his eyes and thoughts.  This is why it's so important to pray for the men in our lives, especially our husbands, to have discipline over what they let their eyes and minds dwell on.

And this is why I love my husband.  He respects other women.  He respects me.  He loves me enough to protect his eyes and to remember the covenant he has made with me when we said “I do”.  Our vows specifically state that we have pledged each other our faith (i.e. our love) and to forsake all others.  We vowed to God that we would honor one another.  And this is my husband living out his vows to me, and more importantly, to God.

This is why I love my husband.